Auntie Jenn

I just found out that my little brother, the one who turned 21 last Thursday is expecting a baby with the first girl friend he's ever had. If he's happy then I guess I'm happy for him, I just hate to seem him tied down like that so young.

I guess there's one thing I can be happy about here - despite all the "stuff" I did in my younger years, I'll be the last of my siblings to give mom and dad grandbabies (that's if I EVER do, because I highly doubt it).

My other brother is 24 and has 2 boys, Koby is almost 6 and Adam turns 3 this year.  I'm glad it's not me.  So very glad!

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[Aberrant Templar]

I realized the other day that nearly everyone else my age is married and breeding.

I'm still haven't managed to figure out how to set the digital clock in my car. All I ever manage to do is change the station.

Hi, I'm Jason. Nice site.

[Jenn]

Hi Jason, thanks for visiting my site. I know exactly what you mean.

[William Young]

It doesn't work that way, and there's no way to "explain" it. Children don't slow your life down, disable it, worsen it, or otherwise "tie you down." It only seems that way when you're single and bar hopping.

I know, I was there.

Then I got married and had kids. It's one of those "whoa" moments nobody can explain adqequately. Trust me, should you ever have a child, you'll come back to this post and say, "What was I thinking?"

If you never have a child, you'll never care.

[Jenn]

William: Thanks for your insight. I am a bit familiar with the subject. I was (and still am - at the moment) married for 7 years but children have NEVER been part of my equation. NEVER!

Granted, 26 is still quite young, but I've prepped mom for years - she knows not to expect any babies from me.

I don't want to start a big debate over parenting and children, however in my opinion - as crazy as it - I view having children as selfish.

Many people have kids to fill a void while they are so emotionally inept their children will suffer from their shortcomings.

I'm not stupid; I realize that there is no "perfect" time for children: you'll never have enough money, preparation...etc. But all I'm saying is get a little life experience under your belt first.

Go out and see what this world is all about. Find your niche before grooming a helpless child and trying to help them find their own.

I'll quite rambling now; I appreciate your view point William.